Dear 15 year old me,
The year is 2008 and you are currently in the 9th grade. Your bedroom wall is covered in Fall Out Boy, Panic! At The Disco, and My Chemical Romance posters. You spend most of your days online chatting with people who you don’t even know. And you think skinny jeans with giant skater shoes is a cool look.
I know you just started high school, but it’s going to be a great four years. Trust me. You will soon find a group of friends who will make your high school years some of the best years of your life. The memories you create with them will remain with you forever. You won’t go to high school parties with them, as none of them are that type. Instead, you’ll go on road trips, have movie nights, and you will be over at their houses so often that their family becomes an extension of your own. You’ll also have some great teachers who will impact your life more than you thought possible. They’ll teach you much more than what is in the curriculum.
While most of your high school years will be great, there will be one significant event. You know how you complain to your friends in your 7th period art class that you don’t want to go home because your parents make the atmosphere feel tense? Well, that will all end soon. Spoiler: your parents will be getting divorced. It will mess you up for quite a few years afterwards, but just know that it isn’t your fault. Luckily, your dad will move out of the house while you are out of town, which you will be thankful for. You probably wouldn’t be able to handle it otherwise. Don’t worry though. They both go on to remarry other people, and become much happier than before.
If there’s one thing I want you to learn while in high school, it’s that you don’t need to impress anyone. You don’t need to try and dress “cool” (whatever that means). You don’t need to have the latest and greatest iPod or cell phone. You don’t need to brag about every cool thing you and your family have done. People like you for you. They like your humor, your kindness, and your wit, so don’t try to cover that up. It’ll end up saving your friendships in the long run.
You’ll see a big change in yourself over the next four years. By the end of high school, you’ll transform into a brilliant, confident, and passionate young woman. You’ll find hobbies and interests that you could never imagine yourself liking before. You’ll form friendships that will continue once everyone goes their separate ways. You’ll end up finding your true self, and make sure to not let go of that.
I know it feels like fifteen years is a long time, but trust me, life moves way too quickly once you’re finished school. Treasure these moments while you can. You’re only this young once.
25 year old you